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Reckoning's avatar

As a parent of multiple children, I enjoy thinking about these issues.

With respect to the learning environment, I think there are trade offs for every kid. The older kid gets the benefit of a few years of mom to himself (if lucky), but they don’t get the benefit of older siblings and stay innocent longer.

My wife noticed on Facebook that parents of seriously ill or disabled kids tend to stop having children. I wonder if this type of selection is a major effect. For example, what if parents of “better” kids are more likely to have more kids, at which point they experience regression to the mean?

Conversely, if parents get a dud kid, they would be more likely to stop out of frustration, and also focus on helping that kid.

With respect to an only child effect, I would assume that such parents are more indifferent to their kids or simply less effective, leading to a worse parenting experience and them being more likely to stop.

You could think of a lot of different selection effects based on the different types of parents. For example, I assume most parents of larger families have to accept that their educational efforts are going to be diluted. I assume the super strivers stop sooner so they can concentrate their resources.

Stonebatoni's avatar

Anecdotal evidence, etc. but I was accelerated twice at my own request (past 8th grade, and past 12th grade), and it was ultimately disastrous for me both academically and socially. I suspect it probably cost me about half of my lifetime earnings because it (ironically) allowed me tons of excuses for poor performance after acceleration. I suspect because I had requested it, my parents were afraid to be critical of my academic performance afterwards, which only reinforced the struggle.

It’s certainly possible that acceleration due to parental intervention against or without consideration for the child’s wishes could be beneficial, or that my family dynamic made it particularly unhelpful.

Another anecdote: all the kids at my competitive college prep school who were older than their peers on average got into better colleges and generally were happier in their high school years.

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